{"id":431,"date":"2022-01-15T10:40:56","date_gmt":"2022-01-15T10:40:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/perfodev.fr\/?p=431"},"modified":"2022-01-15T11:17:55","modified_gmt":"2022-01-15T11:17:55","slug":"le-triangle-de-karpman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/perfodev.fr\/en\/le-triangle-de-karpman\/","title":{"rendered":"Le triangle de KARPMAN"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Le triangle de KARPMAN<\/h1>\n

Il est important de rep\u00e9rer ce triangle et le r\u00f4le tenu dans les situations quotidiennes<\/p>\n

Pour en sortir (ou du moins essayer), un peu de travail sur soi<\/strong> :<\/h2>\n

Sortir du r\u00f4le de pers\u00e9cuteur\u00a0:<\/strong><\/h3>\n

J\u2019apprends \u00e0 me laisser soutenir par la vie et par ceux qui m\u2019entourent. Je cesse d\u2019avoir peur des autres<\/p>\n

Sor<\/strong>tir du r\u00f4le de victime\u00a0:<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Je dis merci pour les bienfaits de chaque jour. Je reconnais ern moi le pouvoir de cr\u00e9er ma vie<\/p>\n

Sortir du r\u00f4le de sauveur\u00a0:<\/strong><\/h3>\n

J\u2019apprends \u00e0 aimer ce que je suis, plut\u00f4t que ce que je fais. Je choisi de prendre soin de moi en premier<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>Ou \u00eatre dans l\u2019action<\/strong> vis-\u00e0-vis de l\u2019interlocuteur\u00a0:<\/h2>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>Face \u00e0 une victime<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Si une personne se plaint et se victimise sans arr\u00eat, alors il y a deux fa\u00e7ons de r\u00e9agir :<\/p>\n

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  1. Continuez comme si vous n\u2019aviez rien entendu.<\/li>\n
  2. r\u00e9pondre avec une remarque l\u00e9g\u00e8rement satirique pour faire prendre conscience du ridicule de la plainte.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Comment faire si la personne a vraiment besoin d\u2019aide ?<\/p>\n

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    • D\u2019abord, elle doit explicitement demander de l\u2019aide.<\/li>\n
    • Deuxi\u00e8mement, l\u2019aide doit avoir un objectif de retour \u00e0 l\u2019autonomie. Si pour vous, \u00ab\u00a0aider\u00a0\u00bb signifie \u00ab\u00a0faire le travail \u00e0 la place de\u00a0\u00bb, alors il y a un probl\u00e8me : vous \u00eates devenu un\u00a0sauveur.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      \u00ab\u00a0Quand un homme a faim, mieux vaut lui apprendre \u00e0 p\u00eacher que de lui donner un poisson.\u00a0\u00bb<\/strong> Confucius<\/p>\n

      Face \u00e0 un sauveur<\/strong><\/h3>\n

      Si une personne insiste pour vous aider alors que vous n\u2019avez rien demand\u00e9, refusez gentiment son aide. Il est fort probable que la personne se sente bless\u00e9e,\u00a0d\u2019o\u00f9 l\u2019importance d\u2019y aller avec tact.<\/p>\n

      Face \u00e0 un pers\u00e9cuteur<\/strong><\/h3>\n

      Face \u00e0 un pers\u00e9cuteur, potentiellemnt deux solutions :<\/p>\n

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      • Vous utilisez la technique de \u00ab\u00a0oui-oui\u00a0\u00bb qui est terriblement efficace, notamment lorsque vous sentez que votre interlocuteur ne cherche pas \u00e0 prendre<\/li>\n
      • En revanche, vous n\u2019avez pas toujours envie de dire oui-oui, surtout quand l\u2019autre essaye d\u00e9lib\u00e9r\u00e9ment de vous intimider. Dans ce cas, adoptez une attitude\u00a0\u0153il pour \u0153il, dent pour dent.\u00a0Si vous faites ce choix, vous ne pouvez pas y aller qu\u2019\u00e0 moiti\u00e9. Il faut \u00eatre vraiment pr\u00eat \u00e0 se d\u00e9fendre.<\/li>\n<\/ul>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

        Le triangle de KARPMAN Il est important de rep\u00e9rer ce triangle et le r\u00f4le tenu dans les situations quotidiennes Pour en sortir (ou du moins essayer), un peu de travail sur soi : Sortir du r\u00f4le de pers\u00e9cuteur\u00a0: J\u2019apprends \u00e0 me laisser soutenir par la vie et par ceux qui m\u2019entourent. Je cesse d\u2019avoir peur […]<\/p>","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":432,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"off","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[7],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-431","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-coaching"],"yoast_head":"\nLe triangle de KARPMAN - PERFODEV<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Comment sortir du triangle "sauveur", "pers\u00e9cuteur", "victime"\" \/>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/perfodev.fr\/en\/le-triangle-de-karpman\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"Le triangle de KARPMAN - PERFODEV\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"Comment sortir du triangle "sauveur", "pers\u00e9cuteur", "victime"\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:url\" content=\"https:\/\/perfodev.fr\/en\/le-triangle-de-karpman\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:site_name\" content=\"PERFODEV\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:published_time\" content=\"2022-01-15T10:40:56+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"article:modified_time\" content=\"2022-01-15T11:17:55+00:00\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:image\" content=\"https:\/\/perfodev.fr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2022\/01\/karpman.jpg\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:width\" content=\"1280\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:height\" content=\"720\" \/>\n\t<meta property=\"og:image:type\" content=\"image\/jpeg\" \/>\n<meta name=\"author\" content=\"Regimbeau Fran\u00e7ois\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:card\" content=\"summary_large_image\" \/>\n<meta name=\"twitter:label1\" content=\"Written by\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data1\" content=\"Regimbeau Fran\u00e7ois\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:label2\" content=\"Est. reading time\" \/>\n\t<meta name=\"twitter:data2\" content=\"2 minutes\" \/>\n<script type=\"application\/ld+json\" class=\"yoast-schema-graph\">{\"@context\":\"https:\/\/schema.org\",\"@graph\":[{\"@type\":\"WebPage\",\"@id\":\"https:\/\/perfodev.fr\/le-triangle-de-karpman\/\",\"url\":\"https:\/\/perfodev.fr\/le-triangle-de-karpman\/\",\"name\":\"Le triangle de KARPMAN - 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